Experiencing a traumatic event is enough to leave anyone shaken but sometimes that shaken feeling sticks around. It develops into a condition called post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), something that most people today are aware of. Whether they understand the true impact that PTSD can have, they recognize that it’s oftentimes a debilitating condition.
But what about secondary trauma? Have you ever heard of secondary trauma before?
Surviving a traumatic event directly leaves a lasting impact. Holding space for a loved one who experienced a traumatic event also has its effects. This is true for spouses, parents, and extended family members as well as educators, social workers, and other helping professionals.
This is especially true for those with an LGBTQ+ loved one. Research shows that people who are part of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community are significantly more likely to experience a traumatic event. The trauma these individuals go through may leave a lasting impact as well as potentially trigger mental health concerns.
If you have an LGBTQ+ loved one, your chances of experiencing secondary trauma increase. And though they’re the person who experienced the initial trauma, your secondary trauma is still important to address. The secondary trauma that comes from absorbing the pain of your LGBTQ+ loved one is a valid concern.
Trauma and the LGBTQ+ Community
The shooting at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando in 2016 sent waves of grief throughout the community and its allies. This event shined a haunting light on the very real fears that many LGBTQ+ individuals live with every day. People in this community are likely to experience at least one hate crime during their lives.
Directly acts of hate are only one cause of the traumatic things that LGBTQ+ individuals often experience. The range of life events they experience may contribute to a traumatic response, too. Too many people lose family members and friends after coming out as their true, authentic selves. Religion is also commonly used as a tool with which to bludgeon and berate LGBTQ+ individuals.
Other traumas that members of the LGBTQ+ community experience include bullying, rejection, societal stigma, harassment, physical or sexual abuse, intimate partner violence, grief, loss, and more. With all the potential trauma an LGBTQ+ individual may experience during their life, the chance of developing secondary trauma from an LGBTQ+ loved one is all too possible.
What is Secondary Trauma?
70% of adults experience at least some type of traumatic event in their life. More than two-thirds of children report at least one traumatic event by the time they turn 16. These experiences leave a lasting impact on people and sometimes manifest in more serious conditions with some severe side effects.
Traumatic events not only affect the person who experiences them directly but also the people who care about them. Hearing about these traumatic events second-hand can have an incredible impact, too. Someone who develops emotional distress as a result of hearing about another person’s trauma is experiencing secondary trauma.
Also called compassion fatigue or vicarious traumatization, secondary trauma is not caused by an inability to cope. It may seem less intense than experiencing trauma firsthand, but secondary trauma comes with its own set of challenges to overcome. You shouldn’t feel ashamed for feeling the impact your loved one’s trauma has, and it’s just as important to understand what you’re experiencing, too.
If you’re a professional who works with children or adolescents you’re particularly vulnerable to developing secondary trauma. You’ve likely heard at least a few awful stories from young people who endure trauma such as abuse, violence, or neglect. Therapists, social workers, case managers, child welfare workers, and other professionals hear about these experiences day in and day out.
When your class or caseload includes young LBGTQ+ individuals, the stories you hear each day may be especially disheartening.
Signs You Might Be Experiencing Secondary Trauma
Are you wondering whether you’re experiencing secondary trauma? If you have an LGBTQ+ loved one, or you work with individuals who endure trauma, you may be at risk. Regular indirect exposure to trauma can take a serious emotional toll and lead to difficulties in daily life.
Experts have known of the reality of secondary trauma but overall the community of helping professionals are recognizing the pressures that lead to the condition. Learning the signs of secondary trauma will help you notice when you or someone else reaches this breaking point.
Signs of secondary trauma fall into one of three categories: physical, behavioral, and psychological. There is plenty of overlap between the three categories. You may experience symptoms from only one or two categories, or you might notice extensive symptoms from all three.
- Rashes or breakouts
- Sore muscles, back, or neck
- Weakened immune system
- Gastrointestinal distress
- Grinding teeth or clenched jaw
- Heart palpitations
- Avoiding students/clients/patients
- Short temper, irritability, or anger at work or home
- Increased negativity or gossip
- Avoiding friends or family members
- Binge-watching television or movies after work
- Increasing drug or alcohol use
- Not responding to calls or texts
- Limiting socialization
- Troubles with making decisions
- Problems in personal relationships
- Difficulties with intimacy or sex
- Thinking about quitting work
- Difficulties sleeping
- Emotional exhaustion
- Negative self-image
- Changes in appetite (restricting or binge eating)
- Feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or cynical
- Extreme sense of guilt
- Feeling little or no sympathy/empathy for clients, friends, or family members
- Dreading going to work or working with particular students/clients
- Losing enjoyment or appreciation for career
- Depersonalization or dissociation
- Heightened anxiety or fears
- Intrusive mental imagery
- Difficulties separating personal and professional life
How to Overcome Secondary Trauma
Some of the signs of secondary trauma can have a significant negative impact on both your professional and personal life. Overcoming secondary trauma is crucial not only to continue being a source of support for the LGBTQ+ individuals in your life but your own well-being, too. There are a few ways you can work through your secondary trauma.
Find Your Own Space For Support
Trying to be there for an LGBTQ+ individual while stuffing signs of secondary trauma won’t work. You can’t fill from an empty cup. There’s a reason why so many therapists have a therapist. Unless you’re taking steps to find support, you won’t be able to support anyone else in your life.
Don’t Neglect Self-Care
Don’t use emotional exhaustion as a reason to neglect self-care. You should have a few things you do to care for yourself at the end of the day. These practices can be any number of things from exercising to reading to cooking to meditating. There are no requirements for your self-care other than selecting a few things to incorporate.
Surround Yourself With Loved Ones
Surround yourself with people who know the weight you’re carrying. Whether they understand from personal experience or not, having people who can support you at the end of the day is a must. Trying to overcome secondary trauma alone is a losing battle; don’t neglect the power of letting those closest to you love you on your path to peace.
Specialized Treatment for Trauma at Lifeskills South Florida
Overcoming trauma is not a one-way street. Working with victims of trauma is an intricate and ongoing process, requiring a full continuum of care. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to working with individuals who survived trauma. Effective treatment requires an individual assessment and tailored approach for each person who needs help.
Lifeskills South Florida recognizes the unique needs of people working through trauma. We offer a trauma-specific therapy treatment program that works with anyone struggling with post-traumatic stress responses. Our programs are designed to provide clients with space to safely process all trauma-related issues and any resulting symptoms or conditions.
We use trauma-specific treatment methods including Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). If you or a loved one are battling a trauma-related disorder, Lifeskills South Florida is here to help. Fill out our contact form or call us to speak with an admissions specialist to learn more about our programs today!